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In the song, Kanye sings about going through a breakup.

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Production [ ]

The song heavily utilizes a vocal sample from Pusha T 's 2012 song, "Blocka". He also references a lyric from Lords of the Underground's 1993 song, "Chief Rocka". [3]

Background [ ]

Producer S1 revealed that the song was originally meant to release on Watch The Throne ( 2011 ) and even had a verse from Jay-Z , but Kanye instead saved it for himself. [4] Kid Cudi confirmed that his vocals in the song were originally meant to just be a reference. Cudi also stated that he wasn't very happy with his feature in the song, since he felt "underused" by Kanye. [5]

I need to call it off

I need to, I need to make it known

Another one, leprechaun

Dancing out on the lawn

Fancy like the things she likes

She lives her life

I'm living mine

All dem a gwaan dem a dem a dem a gwaan

Dem a gwaan gwaan gwaan, sof-sof-softer sof-softer

Dem a gwaan gwaan gwaan, softer than clay

Maybe it's cause she into Leos

And I was into trios, plus all the trips to Rio

Couldn't have helped, it's gettin' cold

Better bring your ski clothes, peeking through the keyhole

The door locked by myself and I'm feelin' it right now

'Cause it's the time when my heart got shot down

Blocka, blocka, blocka-blocka, blocka

Pour a little champagne, cranberry vodka

Feelin' lied to like parents never said you adopted

Your feelings like Zulu, then nothing is a Shaka

I hit her with Jamaican dick, I'm the new Shabba

She lookin' for her daddy, call me Big Poppa

On to the next saga

Focus on the future and let the crew knock her

Star Wars fur, yeah I'm rockin' Chewbacca

The one Chief Rocka, number one Chief Rocka

None ah dem have the guts to rise it and spray

None ah dem have the guts to bust the AK

If you love me so much then why'd you let me go?

Let me go, let me go, let me go

Credits [ ]

Adapted from Spotify [6] :

• Performed by Kanye West , Kid Cudi
• Written by Mike Dean , Al Terik Wardrick , Chris Martin , Cydel Young , Dupre Kelly , Kanye West, Keith Elam , Kevin Hansford, Larry Griffin Jr., Marlon Williams , Kid Cudi, Terrence Thornton , Tyree Pittman
• Produced by Kanye West, Mike Dean, S1 , Travis Scott , Ackeejuice Rockers

References [ ]

• ↑ https://open.spotify.com/album/7D2NdGvBHIavgLhmcwhluK
• ↑ https://genius.com/Kanye-west-guilt-trip-lyrics
• ↑ https://www.whosampled.com/Kanye-West/Guilt-Trip/
• ↑ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PNX3sYfSaqw
• ↑ https://www.mtv.com/news/e22b8j/kid-cudi-yeezus-feature
• ↑ https://open.spotify.com/track/5nPOM0nFRAJ3XI8xCxNAzO?si=924a4046aa98411a
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Guilt Trip by Kanye West

• I need to call it off I need to, I need to make it known Another one, leprechaun Capricorn Dancing out on the lawn Fancy like the things she likes She lives her life I'm living mine All dem a gwaan dem a dem a dem a gwaan Dem a gwaan gwaan gwaan, sof-sof-softer sof-softer All dem a gwaan dem a dem a dem a gwaan Dem a gwaan gwaan gwaan, softer than clay Maybe it's cause she into Leos And I was into trios, plus all the trips to Rio Couldn't have helped, it's gettin' cold Better bring your ski clothes, peeking through the keyhole The door locked by myself and I'm feelin' it right now 'Cause it's the time when my heart got shot down Blocka, blocka, blocka-blocka, blocka Pour a little champagne, cranberry vodka Feelin' lied to like parents never said you adopted Your feelings like Zulu, then nothing is a Shaka I hit her with Jamaican dick, I'm the new Shabba She lookin' for her daddy, call me Big Poppa On to the next saga Focus on the future and let the crew knock her Star Wars fur, yeah I'm rockin' Chewbacca The one Chief Rocka, number one Chief Rocka All dem a gwaan dem a dem a dem a gwaan Dem a gwaan gwaan gwaan, sof-sof-softer sof-softer All dem a gwaan dem a dem a dem a gwaan Dem a gwaan gwaan gwaan, softer than clay All dem a gwaan dem a dem a dem a gwaan Dem a gwaan gwaan gwaan, sof-sof-softer sof-softer None ah dem have the guts to rise it and spray None ah dem have the guts to bust the AK Oh, oh, oh If you love me so much then why'd you let me go? If you love me so much then why'd you let me go? If you love me so much then why'd you let me go? Let me go, let me go, let me go If you love me so much then why'd you let me go? Let me go All dem a gwaan dem a dem a dem a gwaan Dem a gwaan gwaan gwaan, sof-sof-softer sof-softer All dem a gwaan dem a dem a dem a gwaan Dem a gwaan gwaan gwaan, softer than clay All dem a gwaan dem a dem a dem a gwaan Dem a gwaan gwaan gwaan, sof-sof-softer sof-softer None ah dem have the guts to rise it and spray None ah dem have the guts to bust the AK Writer/s: Al Terik Wardrick, Charles Carey Williams, Chris E. Martin, Cydel Charles Young, Dupre L. Kelly, Kanye Omari West, Keith Elam, Kevin M. Hansford, Marlon Lu'ree Williams, Michael G. Dean, Scott Ramon Seguro Mescudi, Terrence Thornton, Tyree Lamar Pittman Publisher: Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd., Raleigh Music Publishing LLC, Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group, Warner Chappell Music, Inc. Lyrics licensed and provided by LyricFind
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What Is Guilt Tripping?

Kendra Cherry, MS, is a psychosocial rehabilitation specialist, psychology educator, and author of the "Everything Psychology Book."

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A guilt trip means causing another person to feel guilt or a sense of responsibility to change their behavior or take a specific action. Because guilt can be such a powerful motivator of human behavior, people can wield it as a tool to change how others think, feel, and behave. 

Sometimes this might involve leaning on something that someone already feels guilty about. In other cases, people might induce feelings of unjustified guilt or responsibility to manipulate the other person's emotions and behaviors.

If someone has ever made you feel bad about something you’ve done (or didn’t do) and then used those bad feelings to get you to do something for them, then you have experience with guilt tripping.

This article discusses the signs, types, and impact of guilt trips. It also covers some of the steps you can take to cope with this type of behavior.

Signs of a Guilt Trip

Guilt trips can be intentional, but they can also be unintentional. There are chances that you have even guilt-tripped people into doing things before.

Sometimes guilt tripping behavior can be easy to spot, but it can also be much more subtle and difficult to detect.  Some key signs that others may be guilt-tripping you include:

• Making comments suggesting that you have not done as much work as they have done
• Bringing up mistakes that you have made in the past
• Reminding you of favors they have performed for you in the past
• Acting as if they are angry but then denying that there is a problem
• Refusing to speak to you or giving you the silent treatment
• Making it clear through their body language , tone of voice, and facial expressions that they disapprove of what you were doing
• Suggesting that you “owe” them
• Engaging in passive-aggressive behavior
• Making sarcastic comments about your efforts or progress

It is important to note that this type of indirect communication can occur in any interpersonal relationship. Still, it is more likely to take place in relationships that are marked by close emotional connections.

It can show up in romantic relationships, but guilt trips may also be utilized in family relationships, parental relationships, and even work relationships.

Types of Guilt Tripping

There are many different types of guilt trips that people may utilize depending on the ultimate goal or purpose of the behavior. Some of the different purposes of a guilt trip include:

• Manipulation : Sometimes, the primary goal of a guilt trip is to manipulate someone into doing something that they normally would not want to do.  
• Conflict avoidance : In other cases, people may use guilt trips to avoid directly talking about an issue. It allows them to get what they want without having to engage in direct conflict.
• Moral education : Guilt trips can also be a way of getting someone to engage in a behavior that the individual feels is more moral or “right.”
• Elicit sympathy : In some cases, guilt-tripping allows the individual to gain the sympathy of others by casting themselves in the role of someone who has been harmed by the actions the other person is supposed to feel guilty about.

Guilt isn't always a bad thing. While often troubling and unpleasant, it can serve an important role in guiding moral behavior. When people experience guilt, they can fix their mistakes and avoid repeating the same errors in the future.

Researcher Courtney Humeny

A guilt trip does not appear to induce the benefits of guilt, such as making amends, honesty, and mutual understanding.

Impact of Guilt Trips

Invoking feelings of guilt to change someone’s behavior can have a wide variety of effects. Whether guilt is wielded intentionally or not, it prevents healthy communication and connections with others. Some of the most immediate effects of this form of covert psychological manipulation include:

Damage to Relationships

Research suggests that guilt trips can take a toll on close relationships. One study found that people hurt by their partner's criticism were more likely to use those hurt feelings to make their partner feel guilty and offer reassurances.

However, the study also found that the partner who had been guilt-tripped into offering assurances was more likely to feel significantly worse about the relationship.

In other words, inducing feelings of guilt may work to get your partner to do what you want—but it comes at a cost. It can impair trust and cause the other person to feel that they are being manipulated. 

One of the reasons why guilt trips can poison relationships is because they can lead to lasting feelings of resentment.

"A guilt trip imposes aversive states associated with guilt, along with feelings of resentment from feeling manipulated," Humeny suggests.

A single occasion of someone using a guilt trip to alter your behavior might not have a serious impact on your relationship. Repeated use of guilt trips can leave you feeling bitter.

If you feel that your partner is always going to guilt you into something that you don't want to do, it can decrease intimacy, reduce emotional closeness, and ultimately make you start to resent your partner.

Research suggests that appeals to guilt are a common type of persuasion technique . However, while guilt can compel people to take certain actions, it can also sometimes backfire.

Low-level guilt tends to motivate people to act on the persuasive message. High levels of guilt, however, often fail due to what researchers call "reactance." 

"An individual in a state of reactance will behave in such a way as to restore his freedom (or, at least, his sense of freedom), for example, by performing behaviors that are contrary to those required," explain researchers Aurélien Graton and Melody Mailliez in a 2019 article published in the journal Behavioral Sciences .

In other words, guilt trips can backfire and lead people to behave opposite how someone else wants them to act. For example, someone guilt-tripping you into calling them more often might actually result in calling them less.

Poor Well-being

Feelings of excessive guilt are associated with several mental health conditions, including anxiety, depression , and obsessive-compulsive disorder . Being subjected to guilt trips may contribute to the development or worsening of such conditions.

Experiencing guilt can also lead to many immediate and unpleasant emotions and symptoms such as anxiety, sadness, regret, worry, muscle tension, and insomnia.

This type of covert manipulation may also sometimes contribute to the development of a guilt complex , which is a persistent belief that you have done (or will do) something wrong.

Over time, guilt can lead to feelings of shame. Shame can affect your self-image, which can then contribute to social withdrawal and isolation.

How to Cope With Guilt Tripping

There are a number of tactics that can be helpful when dealing with a guilt trip. Some steps you can take include:

• Acknowledge the request. Let them know that you understand that it is important to them. Responding with empathy and showing that you see their needs may help them feel that they are not simply being ignored. Validating their emotions may help lessen the intensity of those feelings.
• Share your feelings . Explain that you also see how they are trying to make you feel guilty so that you'll do what they want. Then tell them how that type of manipulation makes you feel. Suggest that interacting in that way will lead to resentment and that more direct communication forms would be more effective. 
• Set boundaries . Boundaries help set limits on what you will and will not accept. Even if you do end up helping them with their request, make sure you clearly articulate your limits and explain the consequences of crossing those boundaries. Then be sure that you enforce those limits if they are crossed.

Other things that you can use include protecting your self-esteem and distancing yourself if needed. You're more likely to fall for a guilt trip if you already feel poorly about yourself, so find strategies to build up your sense of self-worth. 

If the other person keeps trying to manipulate you with feelings of guilt, reduce your communication with them or even consider ending the relationship.

Protecting your own well-being should be a top priority. A person who tries to manipulate you with toxic feelings of shame and guilt does not have your best interests at heart.

Getting Help for Guilt

If you are experiencing feelings of guilt or related symptoms of anxiety, stress, or depression, talk to your health care provider or a mental health professional. They can recommend treatment options such as psychotherapy or medications that can help manage symptoms and improve the quality of your life.

Your doctor or therapist may suggest a type of therapy called cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) , which may help reduce inappropriate guilt feelings. This type of therapy can help you identify and change the negative thoughts and cognitive distortions that can contribute to feelings of guilt.

Your therapist can also help you learn to recognize the signs of a guilt trip—and help you practice strategies to cope with this type of emotional manipulation.

An example of guilt tripping might be your friend calling you and saying, "I know you are too busy with work to hang out. I'll just spend the evening by myself. I just thought that since I helped you get that job you would make sure to make a little more time for me." This type of comment is designed to induce feelings of guilt and bring up the idea that you "owe" them in some way.

Guilt tripping is often designed to manipulate other people by preying on their emotions and feelings of guilt or responsibility. This can be a form of toxic behavior that can have detrimental effects on a person's well-being as well as their relationships.

While both behaviors are destructive and toxic, they differ in key ways. Gaslighting is a type of emotional abuse that involves denying another person's reality and making them question their own experiences. Guilt tripping, on the other hand, is about causing another person to feel guilty in order to get them to change their behavior.

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By Kendra Cherry, MSEd Kendra Cherry, MS, is a psychosocial rehabilitation specialist, psychology educator, and author of the "Everything Psychology Book."

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"Guilt Trip" is a song by American hip hop recording artist Kanye West, from his sixth studio album Yeezus (2013). It was produced by West, Mike Dean, S1, Travis Scott and Ackeejuice Rockers. The song's lyrics deal with looking back at a failed relationship, similar to fellow Yeezus track "Blood on the Leaves". West provides his vocals through rapping and singing through an Auto-Tune processor, reminiscent of his 2008 album 808s & Heartbreak. The song includes vocals from rapper Kid Cudi, who later expressed negative opinions about his feature due to his vocals being recorded years prior. It contains samples of "Chief Rocka" by Lords of the Underground and "Blocka" by Pusha T featuring Popcaan and Travis Scott. Since release, "Guilt Trip" has received generally positive reviews from music critics, with multiple commenting on its melodic sound. By debuting at number 2 on the US Billboard Bubbling Under R&B/Hip-Hop Songs chart, the song had the lowest debut from the album in the United States out of all of the tracks. West performed the song live on The Yeezus Tour in 2013.   more »

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How to Give Someone a Guilt Trip

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This article was co-authored by wikiHow staff writer, Amy Bobinger . Amy Bobinger has been a writer and editor at wikiHow since 2017. She especially enjoys writing articles that help people overcome interpersonal hurdles but frequently covers a variety of subjects, including health and wellness, spirituality, gardening, and more. Amy graduated with a B.A. in English Lit from Mississippi College in 2011 and now lives in her hometown with her husband and two young sons. This article has been viewed 673,333 times. Learn more...

Giving someone a guilt trip can be an effective way to manipulate them to apologize to you or give you what you want. However, if you successfully guilt trip someone, there's a good chance they could end up resenting you for it. [1] X Research source If you do choose to use guilt trips, just try to remember that your relationship with the other person is probably more important than getting your way.

How to Guilt-Trip Someone into Apologizing

• For instance, if you found out that your boyfriend was out with another woman, you might start by asking him something like, "Why didn't you answer the phone when I called you earlier?" If he says he was at work, you could say, “No you weren't, because I called there too.”
• If you know your teenager took cash out of your wallet, you could say, “Where did you get the money to go to the movies last night?”
• Be careful of accusing someone of something they may not have done. If they get blamed when they haven't done anything, they might start to feel like they might as well do whatever they're accused of.

• For example, if you're trying to get your spouse to apologize for being irritable, you might say, “It's not the first time you've snapped at me. Remember the other day when you said...?"
• Only do this when you absolutely must, since it opens the door for the other person to bring up things they feel you've done to hurt them as well.

• Say something like, "How can you say you love me and then lie to me?"
• You could also say "It really hurt my feelings that you forgot my birthday. Don't I matter to you?"

• If someone takes something from you without permission, you could say, "After everything I've given you, how could you steal from me?”
• You might also say something like, "I guess it didn't mean anything to you that I brought you flowers the other day, since you want to pick a fight with me today."
• You could also say something like, “I've cooked dinner for you every night for 5 years, but you can't remember to pick up a carton of milk on the way home?”
• Overdoing this can actually make the person less grateful over time, since whenever you do something nice for them, they'll be wondering how long it will be before you throw it back in their face.

• For instance, if you want your boyfriend to apologize for texting another girl, he might try to make you feel guilty for going through his phone. In this case, you could say something like, "Well, it turns out I had a reason to be suspicious, didn't I?"
• Even if you lose your temper, you can say something along the lines of, "I wouldn't yell if you didn't make me feel like this!"
• Refusing to admit when you're wrong might be an effective technique for a guilt trip, but it's not a good approach to having a healthy relationship.

• Play on the other person's emotions, as well. Use words like "disappointed," "selfish," and “ashamed” to fuel their internal guilt.

How to Get Something You Want

• For instance, if you want a new phone, you might start off by saying, “Hey Dad, check out my report card! I only got one B this whole year!”
• If you're trying to get someone to donate to your charitable organization, you could list some of the good things the charity has done to help the community.

• For instance, if you want your parents to take you out to eat, you might say, "I was really hoping we could go somewhere and spend time as a family, but I guess that's not important."
• If you want a new outfit, you might say, “I feel embarrassed because my clothes aren't as nice as the other kids at school.”
• Use exaggerated language like “always” and “never” to further your point. For instance, you might say, “You always work, and you never spend any time with me.”

• For instance, you might say "Don't you want me to be happy?" or “By helping me, you'd be making yourself feel good, too!”
• You could also "Don't you love me?" or "If you really loved me, you'd..."
• Keep in mind that your parents actually do love you, and exploiting that for something small is a mean manipulative trick. It might be effective, but it also might make them mad.

• If they say no the first time, say something like, "I know you said no, but think about it like this..."
• You could also wait a few days, then say, "I wish you would reconsider letting me drive your car this weekend.”

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• Never try to guilt-trip someone into having sex with you. That kind of coercion is considered a form of sexual assault. Thanks Helpful 75 Not Helpful 18
• There are plenty of positive ways to try to get people to do or say what you want. Guilt trips should be used as a last resort, if at all. Thanks Helpful 48 Not Helpful 13
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To give someone a guilt trip so they will apologize to you, start by asking them leading questions to get the person to admit what they did. You can also bring up similar past situations to make it seem like this is a pattern of behavior that you’ve come to expect from them. Then, tell the person that what they did makes you question the way you feel about them. If the person still isn't feeling guilty enough to apologize to you, kick the drama up a notch by crying, yelling, or making a scene. Don't forget to play on their emotions by using loaded words like "disappointed," "selfish," and “ashamed” to fuel their internal guilt! For tips on guilting someone into getting something you want, read on! Did this summary help you? Yes No

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